Sister's in Loss Brunch 2018 Tickets on Sale!

Hey Sister's in Loss!

We are hosting a brunch on Saturday, April 21, 2018 kicking off National Infertility Awareness Week.  The tickets are now on sale!  Click below to purchase you ticket and I can't wait to see you in Chesapeake, VA in April.

If you are interested in sponsoring the event please click here and download our sponsorship packet.

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Dear Sister in Loss

Dear Sister in Loss,

I am so sorry we met this way.  I am sorry you know the pain of losing a baby, a precious child.  I may not know your child's name.  I may not know how they passed away, but what I do know is the traumatic gut wrenching heartbreak and pain of losing a child.  

Sis, we are now apart of 1 of 4 women who have experienced loss.  As a black women we experience loss even more at 2 of 4 women.  We have joined a sorority we did not want to be apart of.  Now we can not deny our membership.  The bond we share is indescribable.  To know that our little ones are dancing and playing in heaven, just like in The Shack movie, together brings tears to my eyes.  

Our husbands may not know our pain, our family and friends may tell us to get over it. But you my sister have welcomed me in with open arms.  Thank you for allowing me to just be in your presence.  For understanding me even when the words couldn't form and come out my mouth.  For sending gifts and texting me just to let me know you cared.  For being there when my family and friends did not know how to get me out of  my funk.  For loving on me and on my angel in heaven as if they were your own.  

I love you my sister in loss.  We are forever bonded by our angels in heaven!

Sister in Loss

Learning How to Grieve a Miscarriage, Infant or Child Loss, and Stillbirth: Living Your Purpose

This is the last week of the blog series on Learning How to Properly Grieve the Loss of your Miscarriage, Infant and Pregnancy Loss, Child loss, or Stillbirth.  Last week we tackled how to Finding your Passion After Loss this week we are discussing Living your Purpose After Loss.

First off, if you are reading this it is because you have recently lost your baby or have never properly grieved your loss.  Please remember there are no timetables for grief.  Losing a child by way of miscarriage, infant or pregnancy loss, child loss, or stillbirth is the most devastating and traumatic experience that a parent can go through.  A piece of you is missing and you are forever changed.  

We have learned these last 4 weeks how to properly grieve our angel babies by actually processing the loss, journaling to prayer and praise, found our passion and now we are discussing how to live out purpose after loss.

Losing a baby unfortunately reminds us that life is finite.  We have to find our passion to live out our purpose.  

We all have a purpose here on earth.  What's yours?  Finding your passion is directly related to doing the things that light you up and set your soul on fire. If it makes you happy to sing, write, and build things then go do it! You are worthy to walk into your purpose and live your life without the guilt of having loss a child.  You have to give yourself permission to move on guilt free.

Honor your angel babies memory.  Find a cause or organization that is related to your babies interests. Volunteer; host a fundraiser in their name.  Or you could even start a foundation in their name.  If you are interested in starting a 501(c)3 please email me to help you at hello@ericammcafee.com

Sister in Loss Action Items:

  • Begin to Journal your Feelings.  Sometimes its easier to write and journal down what you are thinking and feeling rather than explaining them.
  • Seek therapy when you feel that your grief is becoming too difficult to bear.  I am available for coaching if you need someone to talk to.
  • Join the Sister’s In Loss FB Community and Support Group.  This is a group of women who will pray for you and encourage you through your loss and grief and healing journey.

If you’ve experienced a loss, I encourage you to allow yourself to grieve, get professional help, if needed, be present for your family, and take care of yourself.

Most importantly, remember that loss does not have to equal lost.  You are powerful!  You are worthy!  You are not what you have been through.

Keep the Faith!
~Erica

Living your Purpose After Loss

Learning How to Grieve a Miscarriage, Infant and Child Loss, and Stillbirth: Finding Passion After Loss

This is the third week of the blog series on Learning How to Properly Grieve the Loss of your Miscarriage, Infant and Pregnancy Loss, Child loss, or Stillbirth.  Last week we tackled how to journal to prayer and praise today we are discussing Finding your Passion After Loss.

First off, if you are reading this it is because you have recently lost your baby or have never properly grieved your loss.  Please remember there are no timetables for grief.  Losing a child by way of miscarriage, infant or pregnancy loss, child loss, or stillbirth is the most devastating and traumatic experience that a parent can go through.  A piece of you is missing and you are forever changed.  

After journaling and therapy I began to rediscover myself and who I was after loss.  After all, I was not the same Erica before losing two angels, I was different.  I was getting better, but I was different.  I wanted to find my passion for life again.  I began to ask myself 3 questions about moving on with my life and finding my passion for life again.  I had to make a choice between define, destroy, and drive.  

Will this loss define me?
Will this loss destroy me?
Will this loss drive me?

What would your angel baby want for you? What will you choose? For most of us, it would be the latter.

For me I knew that this loss was apart of my story and it wasn't a part of my journey that I could erase.  I wanted it to define who the "new" Erica was and not destroy who the "old" Erica I thought to be.  This loss ended up driving me to help other women who have felt this pain.  It is the reason why I started this blog and the Erica M. McAfee Podcast.

I encourage you to answer these 3 questions to find yourself and your passion after loss.

Will this loss define me?
Will this loss destroy me?
Will this loss drive me?

What would your angel baby want for you? What will you choose? For most of us, it would be the latter.

Sister in Loss Action Items to Process the Loss:

  • Begin to Journal your Feelings.  Sometimes its easier to write and journal down what you are thinking and feeling rather than explaining them.
  • Seek therapy when you feel that your grief is becoming too difficult to bear.  I am available for coaching if you need someone to talk to.
  • Join the Sister’s In Loss FB Community and Support Group.  This is a group of women who will pray for you and encourage you through your loss and grief and healing journey.

Keep the Faith!
~Erica

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