Thanksgiving is a week away, and the Holiday Season is here. Is it me or has time flown by fast this year? This time of year has always been difficult for me, as I have shared on Instagram on my Real Talk Thursday's and in my Facebook Group Sister's in Loss. My first born son Brandon Jr. passed away 5 years ago this November 29th, days after Thanksgiving. So, I went into my first year of marriage and motherhood without a baby and this all occurred during the Holiday Season. I fell into a deep funk, experienced Holiday Blues, and was depressed from not being able to experience those Holiday firsts with my son, all while everyone around me was happy about the season. The Holiday season is still very difficult for me because of Grief Triggers and it takes me back to that dark place. However, with therapy and prayer I have learned to survive with the three (3) tips I'm sharing in this blog post. Below are 3 ways to survive the Holiday Blues or Seasonal Depression after a Pregnancy or Infant Loss.
Don't Give In to Holiday Pressures
If you are not up for the traditional Thanksgiving meal, Christmas Tree Trimming, putting up decorations, Black Friday shopping, or spending time around family especially ones with children do not do so. Be willing to tell others, "I'm not up for this right now." It is okay to be okay with not giving into the pressures of being jolly around family for the holidays.
- Begin a New Tradition
Try planning a family outing or vacation, instead of spending the holidays at home. Or even volunteer on the holidays. Helping others can also be very helpful for you too. You may want to try working at a soup kitchen. You can organize a gift or toy drive. Or even help your neighbor or family member around the house.
For us, we spent our first Christmas volunteering at a Homeless shelter, serving food, and giving back. It was enough to get my out of my holiday blues/funk and to realize that this season was not about me, but God who lived in me and showing love to others.
Share Your Feelings With Family
Once you are ready to be around family. Remember that it is OK to mourn your loss with family. People can support you best if they know what you need. Remember that people who have never experienced a pregnancy loss may not know what you're going through, and they may be more supportive if you let them know how you feel.
- BONUS - Seek support.
After a miscarriage, infant loss, or stillbirth it may help to talk with someone who's been through the same experience, or to join a support group like Sister's in Loss that shares openly about experiences. You may also need to talk to a coach or therapist.
I am currently taking (3) clients for Grief & Pregnancy Loss Coaching at the beginning of 2018. If you are interested in coaching or unsure of what to expect click here to schedule a call with me. I would love to help support you on your grief journey.
How do you survive the Holiday Blues After your Miscarriage, Infant Loss, or Stillbirth? Let's discuss in the Facebook Group. I will see you there :D
Keep the Faith!