Learning How to Grieve a Miscarriage, Infant and Child Loss, and Stillbirth: Finding Passion After Loss

This is the third week of the blog series on Learning How to Properly Grieve the Loss of your Miscarriage, Infant and Pregnancy Loss, Child loss, or Stillbirth.  Last week we tackled how to journal to prayer and praise today we are discussing Finding your Passion After Loss.

First off, if you are reading this it is because you have recently lost your baby or have never properly grieved your loss.  Please remember there are no timetables for grief.  Losing a child by way of miscarriage, infant or pregnancy loss, child loss, or stillbirth is the most devastating and traumatic experience that a parent can go through.  A piece of you is missing and you are forever changed.  

After journaling and therapy I began to rediscover myself and who I was after loss.  After all, I was not the same Erica before losing two angels, I was different.  I was getting better, but I was different.  I wanted to find my passion for life again.  I began to ask myself 3 questions about moving on with my life and finding my passion for life again.  I had to make a choice between define, destroy, and drive.  

Will this loss define me?
Will this loss destroy me?
Will this loss drive me?

What would your angel baby want for you? What will you choose? For most of us, it would be the latter.

For me I knew that this loss was apart of my story and it wasn't a part of my journey that I could erase.  I wanted it to define who the "new" Erica was and not destroy who the "old" Erica I thought to be.  This loss ended up driving me to help other women who have felt this pain.  It is the reason why I started this blog and the Erica M. McAfee Podcast.

I encourage you to answer these 3 questions to find yourself and your passion after loss.

Will this loss define me?
Will this loss destroy me?
Will this loss drive me?

What would your angel baby want for you? What will you choose? For most of us, it would be the latter.

Sister in Loss Action Items to Process the Loss:

  • Begin to Journal your Feelings.  Sometimes its easier to write and journal down what you are thinking and feeling rather than explaining them.
  • Seek therapy when you feel that your grief is becoming too difficult to bear.  I am available for coaching if you need someone to talk to.
  • Join the Sister’s In Loss FB Community and Support Group.  This is a group of women who will pray for you and encourage you through your loss and grief and healing journey.

Keep the Faith!
~Erica

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