EP114 - Stress and Depression led to decision to Abort Pregnancy with Tiffany Nicole

Black Women and Abortion

Abortion and Elective Termination has always been a topic in the US, with many opposing views. Roe v. Wade was a 1973 landmark decision by the US Supreme Court. The court ruled that a state law that banned abortions (except to save the life of the mother) was unconstitutional. The ruling made abortion legal in many circumstances. With the 2020 presidential election around the corner, states like Alabama, Georgia, and recently Missouri are attempting to pass laws to reduce gestation age for abortions up to banning abortions all together, thus attempting to overturn Roe. vs. Wade.

For September we are exploring the healing and grief side of abortion on the Sisters in Loss Podcast. In the medical world miscarriages are called spontaneous abortions, and in this community we have to learn how to extend grace to individuals who electively terminate their pregnancies no matter their choice. Join us this month as we explore abortion stories and how healing, grief, and shame can keep all of us bound.

After becoming unexpectedly pregnant at 28 today’s guest fell into a deep depression due to the circumstances of her pregnancy. Tiffany Nicole takes us back on the journey toward healing from shame and stigma of abortion, and losing an ex to another woman. This episode is for you to listen to if you have ever been in a situation when you were stressed and depressed it made you physically ill, and how love and therapy can move you out of that depressed state.

Tiffany Nicole’s Bio
I am a southern California girl living in Atlanta trying to pursue her dream as a marketer. I became unexpectedly pregnant at 28 when I went to visit my ex overseas. we are known each other since we were 19 and had been dating on and off for six years. However, he always love that idea the kids and us being a family. I fell into a depression after seeing him as I found out he had someone else there a week before me. This and his additional lies spun me into a deep depression.

When I arrived back to the states, I had the flu for a week. My depression continued and I continuously felt sick. I thought it just was because he and I were arguing and I wasn't taking care of myself. My sickness carried onto three months when my nausea turned into puking. That's when I realized I might be pregnant and took a test. My results were positive but I went to a Planned Parenthood to get more information. It was there that I found out I was 11 weeks pregnant.

During that time, he and I have been arguing about this other woman, the pain he caused me , The lack of support from him and his family .... I just couldn't deal with the idea of sharing an angel with someone I know longer recognized. I ended up getting an abortion due to this and doctors telling me my stress levels were impacting my pregnancy.

Since then, I spiraled into a deeper depression as I miss my angel every day. I ended up losing my job at a fortune 500 company along with trying to mend a broken spirit and heart. I turn to my family and friends for support and they've been a huge aid in helping. I tried to turn to the ex's family and friends, but most were bias. Certain people from his side even said that they thought I lied about my pregnancy and did it for attention. This hurt me even more because I used to be very close with everyone on his side.

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